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"I am Going to be a Boy. It will Keep me Safe." Erin Brewer's Transgender Story

(Above: Erin Brewer shares her story with Dr. Morse on April 3, 2020. This story is taken from that interview)

 

Erin Brewer was only six years old when she was molested by two men outside of her elementary school. The event was traumatic and horrible for her and it led her to dysphoria with her own body. She decided that if she were a boy, she wouldn’t have been assaulted. Her brother, for instance, was with her, and the two men left him alone. She cut her hair and started wearing her brother’s hand me downs. It was a tremendously difficult episode in her childhood.

Erin’s childhood home was far from idyllic. When she was only four, her parents got divorced. She stayed with her mother, who remarried her stepfather. “I longed for my dad’s attention. Still, still, it breaks my heart. I never felt loved by him. A lot of that was because I felt like the divorce was my fault.In my head I felt that if I had been a son, if I had been a good boy, that he would have stayed with my mom.” Any child of divorce will readily recognize and identify with these sentiments.

Another terribly disturbing part of her home life was the nature of her mother and step-father’s marriage. “I basically grew up in a family that is being promoted as sex positive now where there was sex happening in my home, not just between my mother and step father, but between my mother and other men, and my step-father and other men. So it was a very sexualized environment that I grew up in. I think they call it an open marriage. Not a good environment for children to grow up in.”

 


 

It was against that background that six-year-old Erin had to cope with the sexual abuse she endured. She talked about the dissociation she experienced with her body, and how she acted out because of it. “In my case, I hated my body so much that I was doing dangerous and harmful things. I raged, when I’d be brushing my hair, I just started hitting myself with the brush because I hated myself so much. I had blood coming out of my hair. Sometimes, outside, playing on the playground, I would get so angry I would start slamming my fist on my crotch, because I just had this incredible anger because I felt like my body betrayed me. I felt that if I hadn’t been a girl, that sexual assault wouldn’t have happened.”

The emotions and confusion she experienced led her to making sense of the world and coping with the trauma in these destructive, painful ways. Her school psychologist gave her mother some effective guidance, that she says was effective. Among the suggestions were: reinforcing positive ideas of being a woman, exposing her to strong and talented women, putting her in a special group of kids with communication problems, discouraging her from wearing her brother’s hand-me-downs.

This was a critical factor in helping her deal with her transgenderism, but it wasn’t the end of the story. “I stepped away from a trans identity when I hit puberty and realized, ‘guess what, my body is a female body. There’s nothing I can do about it. Nobody is accepting that I’m a boy. Nobody is recognizing me as a boy. I better just accept that I’m a girl.”

But as she moved forward, she had a very different idea of who she was as a woman. “That [acceptance] wasn’t embracing myself as a girl. It wasn’t until the last year, that I really accepted myself as a female, because I had a hole that needed to be filled, and you know this, and I know this gets into religious stuff that alienates some people. But it wasn’t until I accepted God into my life that I was able to accept myself as female and love myself. And that’s why I was able to get into the pornography. If I had loved myself, I never would have fallen into pornography.This does relate to my gender dysphoria and that is because growing up I had so much hatred for myself as a female and I felt so disassociated from myself as a female, that when I sort of started to accept myself as a female, I became very sexualized. So I thought, ‘If I’m going to be a female, that means that I’m going to be sexualized, and I’m going to be objectified and I really kind of accepted that role as being a sexualized and objectified female. That in order for me to be valuable, I had to get that kind of sexualized attention.”

She performed as a solo performer on PornHub. And she found almost immediate success and admiration. Even her therapist gave her a green light. She recounts that he said, “it was great that I found something that I was good at. He likened it to being a social worker, that I was providing a service to these men who needed it.” There was tremendous demand for her videos. The comments poured in. “I can’t eventell you, the kind of affirmation I got from it. I’m not feeling very good about myself, and instantly, I’m having people tell me I’m beautiful, that I’m a goddess, that they want to marry me, that they want to take care of me, that they love me. Instantly, within like an hour of posting my first video.”

But she slowly came to the realization as to why these men liked her videos, specifically. “I’m not the ideal beauty, I’m not a blond bombshell, in some ways, it was really confusing. And at some point, I started to realize that one of the reasons that I was popular was because my body type is that of a little girl. I’m petite. And I started getting more and more requests, to dress up like a little girl, to look younger. And that’s disturbing. So I ended up causing some physical harm to myself.”

The realization came slowly for her, because these users, to her, felt very much like people who loved her. “They felt like my friends, they felt like people who loved me. They felt like my family. It was very easy to get sucked into it. And I finally stopped, I started doing increasingly dangerous things, and there was one day where I was up in the mountains, totally naked, doing something, and I looked up, and there was a man watching me. And I suddenly was like, ‘What am I doing? What the heck am I doing. How stupid is this?’ And I realized my life was a mess. There’s something seriously wrong with my head.”

The expert, her therapist, advised she make her videos in more safe places, like her house. But she recounted that the Ultimate Expert was the one that helped her turn to the light. “Around this time is when I had an epiphany, that I needed to stop doing this. I felt like God kind of interceded and said, “You are loveable. These guys don’t love you. They are teasing with you. They are using you to replace some emptiness in their lives, but they don’t love you.” And having that realization that all of this was, that I was kind of being taken advantage of, that I was harming myself, that I was, potentially, harming other women, by acting out scenes for men that were derogatory or violent towards women. I could potentially be making them thinking that that’s what women want. And that I could be a party to somebody thinking that it is ok to be that abusive to women. It hit me really hard, and I am so thankful.”

Today, Erin works with the Compassion Coalition, a non-partisan national group for those fighting to ban invasive, harmful, unproven medical interventions for gender confused children. Our goal is to support efforts around the nation and around the world to stop the medical abuse of children who identify as transgender.”


Blair Logsdon: 167 Transgender Surgeries

 

Blair’s story isn’t readily available in many places online. He has shared it with Walt Heyer, and it was published on the Daily Signal in 2018, and we will quote from that here. 167 surgeries, all gender transition related, earned Blair Logsdon an entry in the Guiness Book of World Records. It is somewhat disconcerting, for both him, and the medical community. It eventually cost him over $220,000.


 

Blair struggled with feeling comfortable in his body, and in 1987 he attempted to use surgery to help him feel better about his body. Similarly to Walt Heyer’s own story, Blair felt uncomfortable within a very short time from his surgery. After that initial surgery, Blair waited some five years before he had another surgery to restore his male genitalia.

At this point, if someone wanted an additional surgery, most of us would question whether physical intervention would really solve the problem. You would expect medical experts, whether surgeons, therapists, or psychologists would step in and reevaluate the original diagnosis of gender dysphoria and evaluate additional factors, including any signs of comorbidities.

Unfortunately, none of the medical professionals who treated him cared more about lining their pockets rather than his emotional and mental well being.  “Doctors, apparently with total and reckless disregard for Logsdon’s emotional, psychological, and sexual well-being, ignored his obvious distress about previous cosmetic surgeries and indulged his requests for more. He was “caught in a cycle of hope followed by disappointment.” Over the years, Blair experienced a strange combination of feeling regrets over his feminizing surgeries, and a very strong desire for additional feminizing surgeries. “

Over the course of 18 years, Blair received 167 surgeries and filled the bank accounts of seven surgeons with over $220,000. Having been entirely failed by the medical and therapeutic industries over that time period, Blair, who says that he feels disfigured from those surgeries, eventually turned to Jesus Christ. He said he was able to find his “true self” in the gospel.

Blair’s story deserves mention, and his treatment, as well as the medical professionals, deserves scrutiny.

 



First Legal Non-Binary Person Regrets and Detransitions: James Shupe


James Shupe lived for 6 years as a transgender woman. His transgender activism prompted far reaching changes, from pushing the state of Oregon to make gender neutral bathrooms, to receiving a legal non-binary gender designation, even on his birth certificate. But in 2019 he detransitioned and was able to restore his birth name and gender. His transgender story begins in childhood, is complex, distressing, and reveals terrible lapses in our national mental health infrastructure.

After a discharge from the military, Shupe found that he was increasingly distressed and felt at odds with his body. His solution was to visit a nurse practitioner in 2013 and threaten to get and inject hormones on his own if she didn’t prescribe him what he asked for. That same day, even though the nurse had never met him, she ordered the hormone treatments.

What followed were three years of attempting to live in what he perceived as a woman’s body. During that time he was planning on receiving surgery to compliment the hormonal treatments he was taking. Only one lone therapist raised concerns about his treatments and procedures. He not only fired her, but filed a formal complaint against her. All the other professionals went along with his desire to look like a woman.

 


 

His fantasy of living as a woman came tumbling down after those first three years. He said, “Despite having taken or been injected with every hormone and antiandrogen concoction in the VA’s medical arsenal, I didn’t look anything like a female. People on the street agreed. Their harsh stares reflected the reality behind my fraudulent existence as a woman. Biological sex is immutable.”

His next steps were to receive legal recognition as a non-binary person. Through some clever legal maneuvering, a transgender-activist lawyer, and a transgender friendly judge, he made international headlines by having his sex change form declare him “non-binary.” The attention he garnered caused further stress, and while he had attempted the “non-binary” designation as a compromise, and he was hospitalized several times over the next few years.

The root cause of all of this stress, in reality, dates back to his childhood. His childhood was far from happy. His parents beat him violently. He recalled that his mother beat him for “being a sissy.” Understandably, his psyche was scarred, and he was left emotionally vulnerable. During his childhood, he was also sexually abused by his uncle.

After entering the army, and marrying his wife (who, amazingly, stuck by him through the entire process) he became ensnared by pornography. “After having watched pornography for years while in the Army and being married to a woman who resisted my demands to become the ideal female, I became that female instead. At least in my head.” Autogynephilia, a man who is attracted to the idea of himself as a female, is the disorder, articulated by Dr. Ray Blanchard, that explains one of two types of transgender women (the other being homosexuals that are attracted to men).

That none of his medical professionals asked why he felt the way he did, or even looked into the post-traumatic stress he experienced while in the army, shows the power of the transgender lobby. They have cowed the medical profession into ignoring the Hippocratic Oath, and get them to engage in serious psychological and physical harm.

And harm there was. Speaking to PJ Media’s Tyler O’Neil, Shupe detailed the disastrous effects of the hormonal treatment on not only his body, but his mind.

“I ended up in the psych ward three times because of hormones. I had blood clots in my eyes because my estrogen levels were 2,585 instead of 200, low bone density, problems controlling my bladder, and emotional instability. Blood tests indicated I was dropping into kidney disease territory (EFGR below 60) for about 18 months, I had chronic dermatology issues and skin reactions to estrogen patches, I passed out on the kitchen floor from Spironolactone.”

Noticeably absent was a discussion from the terrible side effects that this type of treatment causes. It is almost as though the potential profits blind the physicians to their responsibility to do no harm.

James’ life has been full of difficulties and hardships, both from the affirmation therapy from the professionals, and his distressed upbringing. He has, however, come to a realization about his life and actions. “In January 2019, unable to advance the fraud for another single day, I reclaimed my male birth sex. The weight of the lie on my conscience was heavier than the value of the fame I’d gained from participating in this elaborate swindle.” No longer is he referenced as the man who started the “non binary’ legal option, and he is no longer the darling of the liberal media. But he is a man working to live truth, and speak out about his part in changing it.

He spoke to the Daily Signal about moving forward after detransitioning. He referenced the 12 steps of the Alcoholics Anonymous program, and said it works with other addictions, including compulsive sexual behavior.

“I have admitted that I am powerless over my mental illness and transvestic disorder. I have accepted that my life has become unmanageable and that only a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity. And I have made a conscious decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understand Him.”

“It took seeing and experiencing all of that destruction and recognizing the harms of it for me to finally understand that Christianity builds stronger families, safer communities, and most importantly, a better nation.”

His story is real. His pain is real. His transition, and subsequent desisting, are real. Let’s not ignore his powerful testimony, or forget him.

 



Jeffrey McCall - Dangerous Trans Lifestyle to Desisting


Jeffrey McCall is fortunate in that his body doesn’t carry the physical scars from transition surgeries, nor does he have the internal and psychological damage from hormone therapy. The tragedy for McCall comes in the confusion he felt and the lifestyle he lived for many years.

Jeffrey’s story begins as a young boy – he didn’t conform to the stereotypical boy behaviors. The other kids began to tease him and suggest he might be gay. He eventually agreed with him and by age 15 he had acted on it. From the time he was 15 to the time he was 23, his life spiraled further and further downward.

He began dating older men. After the death of his brother, and a beloved aunt, he began to experience panic attacks and was prescribed (and heavily abused) Xanax. He eventually moved from rural Georgia to LGBT-friendly Nashville. While there, he felt as though he fit in due to the integration his LGBT friends had in life in the city. He put all of his energy into his homosexual identity and his boyfriend. But his life wasn’t as stable as he would have liked.

 


 

“After the relationship ended I went back to alcohol. Immediately after alcohol I started experimenting more with crystal meth. These were some of the darkest days of my life. Xanax entered the picture again and before I knew it I was taking Xanax every day, throughout the day, while smoking crystal meth. I would stay up for days – one time I even stayed up around 5 or 6 days.”

His lifestyle continued to be destructive and hampered his growth. Providentially, his father received a job at Emmanuel College and offered Jeffrey an opportunity to attend, tuition free. Jeffrey accepted, and, after having the initial shock of going back to chickens and barns wear off, his academic performance, and even his life, began to stabilize. He did well in his classes and even got full pay for a TA position for his Master’s program.

Despite the trappings of his life appearing more stable, his inner turmoil was growing. He eventually developed a new personality, Scarlet, and lived as Scarlet more and more frequently. Speaking of his connection with his transgender personality, McCall said, “You see you have to understand this part of my life with Scarlet. This was my hope at that time in life. It was everything I put my life into and it was my identity – my friends accepted it, my life and my future was all wrapped up in this identity as ‘Scarlet.’”

His life spiraled out of control again. As he went further from God, he came closer to alcohol and promiscuity, as well as performing in drag shows. He said he often would be with a new man every day, even sometimes with married men. The weight of his actions was so crushing to him that he would often cry out to God at night, promising to change, but he never seemed able to change his life.

While his life was in turmoil, he had two mentors that helped him through his turmoil: a professor who had been molested as a child, and Pastor Jentezen Franklin. His professor, who always referred to Jeffrey as “Scarlet,” had been through similar experiences as McCall had in her childhood, but had learned to be happy, enjoy life, and was even married with children. He eventually opened up to this professor, who was kind enough to listen.

Pastor Franklin had a church that Jeffrey attended twice while he was in school. While Jeffrey did not attend the church in person, he found that Pastor Franklin …would come on television, or, I would look him up on YouTube. I would listen to him and the Holy Spirit was using it to convict me of sin.” It was a somewhat unique, if not ironic, situation. He had a secret life of listening to a Christian pastor while living publicly as a transsexual.

McCall described a powerful experience he had at the end of his time in graduate school. One night, as he sat in his room crying, he opened his heart to God in prayer. “God, I know people live for you, not just go to church on Sunday, not just play a religious game, like something happened and their life was transformed. And I said, 'Will I ever live for you?' My voice went silent. My thoughts stopped. And I heard God say, 'Yes, you will live for me.”

A few months later, he made the decision to completely give up the identity of Scarlet. He threw away all the clothing, makeup, wigs, and everything. The decision to completely move away from that, especially after having received a diagnosis of gender dysphoria and planning on receiving surgeries, was a tremendous step towards living a life removed from sin, but it wasn’t his only one.

He decided that he needed to make a video explaining his decision and to share that on social media. Some of the comments he received from his video were not very complimentary, verging on abusive and cruel. “'You can't leave homosexuality. You're transitioning. Like, This is who you are. What do you mean you're just leaving everything?” While such a decision and feedback might have caused him to have a relapse in the past, his faith helped him move forward.

"When I started losing the friends and some family members, my relationship with the Lord just kept blossoming. The day that I made the Facebook live video, that was the day I was filled with the Holy Spirit. The Bible became completely alive to me.” Even though things were difficult, he didn’t quit, but kept moving forward. He said, of the transition, “It was a lot to handle. I had to explain to people that it wasn’t about becoming ‘straight’. It was a choice not to follow sin. The alcoholic, transgender, homosexual, prescription drug life I had was not what God had created me for.”

 

 

Currently, Jeffrey McCall works to organize Freedom Marches, focusing on the stories of men and women who have left the LGBT life. The events are to bring hope to people trapped in the same lifestyle that he had, and to show that they can be freed by Jesus and be transformed.

 



Five Hours and a Letter - Sydney's Transgender Story


Five hours and a letter. That’s all that Sydney Wright needed to begin hormone replacement therapy and gender “transition.” Sydney was on the verge of turning 19 and was convinced that transitioning to being a boy would solve the psychological problems she was facing. She was a classic tomboy, but also was mainly attracted to girls. The encouragement to “transition” was coming from various sources: her therapist, the seemingly ubiquitous transgender success stories she saw in the media, and even her friends.

Five hours might be the time spent on two dates with someone. How well do you know someone after two dates? Telling someone your darkest inner secrets after two dates usually gets you ghosted for the third. Even psychologists aren’t always able to treat their patients after five sessions. Yet, for Sydney, the specialist she saw felt that the five hours amounted to enough to get a recommendation letter for hormone therapy.

She summed up the problematic thinking our society has engaged in, “At age 18, I wasn’t even legal to buy alcohol, but I was old enough to go to a therapist and get hormones to change my gender.”


After she received the letter, she met with a doctor whom, she thought, would administer the treatments himself. Instead, he showed callous disregard for her and her future well-being. In response to her stating that she was nervous, he asked whether or not she wanted to move forward, accepted her letter (without even opening it), phoned in the prescription, and told her to administer the shots herself – perhaps learning how on YouTube.

Sydney began the treatments and noticed some worrying results almost immediately. She gained weight, her skin became discolored, and, most terrifyingly of all, her blood started to thicken. She also discovered that she was now pre-diabetic. The original doctor said that these symptoms weren’t something to be worried about. Fortunately, she had the good sense to seek out a second opinion, which informed her that she was at risk for a stroke or heart attack.

And yet, for all the potentially life threatening side-effects of the treatments, not one of her friends, or people who cared for her, dared to speak out, or even talk to her about the terrible impact it was having on her. No one, that is, except for her grandfather. “Finally, one day, my grandfather sat me down to talk about it. He was, and will remain the only person whose opinion I will ever care about. With tears in his eyes, he asked me to stop… That was a saving grace. I would have let this treatment kill me before admitting I’d screwed up. His intervention may have saved my life.”

While Sydney didn’t have any surgeries, quitting the therapy took an immensely heavy toll on her. For four months she went through terrible withdrawals. Her hormone balance was off, she spent nearly every day sick, was unable to keep any food down, and during her last ER visit, was convinced that if she wasn’t admitted to the hospital, she wouldn’t make it. Even a year after being off of hormones, her voice is still deep and she appears very masculine, but fortunately, she has been able to return to a semi-normal life.

Sydney now identifies as the female she has always been, though it will take a court order in order for her to change her driver’s license to reflect that. She is still a lesbian, but has recently come out in support of an Alabama bill banning transgender treatments for people under the age of 19. Peter Sprigg, of the Family Research Council explained about Sydney’s stance, “She made clear that she's not opposing this bill because she's against the LGBT community. She's part of the LGBT community. She opposes it because of the physical harm that it causes to the bodies of transgender kids.”

Sydney’s story is a travesty and she knows it. From the zeitgeist of affirmation to the medical profession’s indulgence of childish fantasies, to the doctor’s preferment of pharmaceutical payments to the health of their desperate and fragile clients, our children, and anyone suffering from gender confusion, deserves better.

 

 

Sydney lives in Georgia and told her story to the Daily Signal. We are grateful to her for having the courage to share her story, and to the Daily Signal for publishing it.



Hidden Dangers of The Mind: A Detransitioner’s Tale

I was a lesbian for 22 years. Then I lived as a female to male transsexual for 17 years before detransitioning.

My name is Maritza. I was born in Havana, Cuba. My mother was given a form of estrogen to prevent miscarriages. She was able to carry me to term, but not without ramifications. I dealt with health issues, from asthma to reproductive female issues. I was not your average female. I had a deeper voice, bad menses, and a slew of emotional and neurological instabilities.

I was sexually molested from age 8 to 12. My parents were dysfunctional, particularly my father, who was an abusive, alcoholic control freak. My mother was emotionally incapable of dealing with me. She was an ill woman and was spoiled by my grandmother.

Many of our childhood traumas come back to haunt us as adults. Unresolved emotional issues show themselves in various facets of disassociation and grief, to the point where we create poor coping skills to mask the pain. I believe same sex attraction stems from rejection, sexual abuse, and a mother or father wound. I’ve seen this not only in myself, but in many others.

 


 

If we’ve been hurt, we engage in a behavior that allows us to run away from who we are. Instead of being angry at the person who mistreated us, we blame ourselves. We self-harm. We see ourselves as not good enough; therefore, an alteration of our character, to include mannerism, gender or sexual expression, rises.

We try to fix the situation by creating an alternative person attracted to the same sex, so we do not have to repeat the scenario that took place with our parent. Many try to replace that parent with a same-sex partner. No one in their right and balanced mind would choose to gender swap or be same-sex attracted. This is done out of despair and in attempt to "fix" a situation.

There is no objective finding to prove that we are born gay. This new gender craze is based on nothing more than junk science and a rather crafty marketing scheme. There is a dark agenda behind it, led by the elites, who are trying to bring in a brave new world.

So how did I get to where I am today? After all, I had bought the lies and believed the gender craze. I advocated for the trans community, did the TV circuit, and even wrote a book called, The Mirror Makes No Sense. I believed that I was born wrong. Years of research, however, led me to understand that there is no evidence that anyone is born wrong or that there is a nature within that makes you gay. We are programmed by our creator to be heterosexual, so where does this paradigm come from? Our fallen nature and our need to fix things.

From all the failed relationships and lack of true happiness came the realization that the life I chose had lots of holes in it. You begin to think that feeling this way is normal. You fight for it. You claim others are wrong, but when you dive into the real essence of it, you realize that it is all based on lies.

I believe that the Father, our creator, used my situation to awaken me to the truth. I was in several relationships with trans women who still had their male parts. And although I was repulsed at one point by men, due to the sexual molestation and the aggressive alcoholic father, being with transwomen helped heal those wounds. In some strange way, I no longer feared men. I was also healed from my same sex attraction.

Today people claim all sorts of disorders, none of which have any biological nature but are psychological and situational. But politicians have an agenda to push. There are medications to be sold and procedures to be had. The corruption of society is quite the circus, one I am glad to no longer be part of.

I am in gratitude to my savior, who through his patience, love and persistence, allowed my chains to be broken. I no longer identify as a lesbian. I no longer want to be seen as a man. I am content to be the daughter of the Most High, here help others break free from the programming and brainwashing the trans agenda has to offer.

I want people to know that there is hope. If they want healing and ask the Father for guidance, they will find it. Without a shadow of a doubt, no one is born wrong, and God does not make mistakes. The adversary toils with your pain, places bad ideas in your mind and heart, and will make you believe lies. You owe it to yourself to learn the real you, to realize that life was not meant to be as hard as you make it. Let him take control and heal you once and for all.

 

 

 

Maritza currently maintains her blog and a YouTube channel. In both places she shares her story as well as the stories from other desisters. We are grateful to her for submitting her story to be shared with the Ruth Institute.



Marriage is the Foundation of Social Order: World Congress of Families Caribbean Regional Conference

Marriage is the Foundation of Social Order

A speech by Don Feder to the World Congress of Families Regional Conference

Antigua, June 29-30, 2017

This was originally published in Grass Tops USA and is reprinted here with their gracious permission.

We must defend marriage as the union of one man and one woman. More broadly, we need a renaissance of marriage if our civilization is to survive.

Let's start with an unlikely source. Actress Raquel Welch was a symbol of the new sexual freedom of the 1970s. The star of "One Million Years B.C." was voted the most desirable woman of that era by the readers of Playboy magazine.

But in a 2010 commentary on CNN.com, Welch decried the sexual freedom and sexual irresponsibility that came with what's come to be known as the "Pill."

Regarding marriage, Welch confessed: "I'm ashamed to admit that I myself have been married four times, and yet I still feel that it(marriage)is the cornerstone of civilization, an essential institution that stabilizes society, provides a sanctuary for children and saves us from anarchy." She summarized the case for marriage eloquently, in just 26 words.

And yet, marriage is everywhere in decline. In the United States, in 1960, 72% of adults were married. By 2008, that figure had fallen to 51%. In other words, whether through divorce, the death of a spouse or a failure to marry at all, almost half of all adults in America are single. Among those in their prime childbearing years (ages 18 to 35), 65% were married in 1960, compared to only 26% today.

 


 

People are marrying later in life, if at all. Fewer marriages and later marriages equal fewer children. The flight from marriage is the primary cause of dramatically falling fertility. Every developed nation now has below replacement fertility – in many cases, well-below replacement.

The decline of marriage has led to a loss of social cohesion. Marriage and children force men to grow up. Marriage makes them responsible, by giving them a sense of purpose. It gives women the security to become mothers.

Marriage tames destructive male instincts. The most potent force for social chaos is unattached males in their teens and twenties. As a rule, married men don't join gangs, deal drugs or commit random acts of violence. They work harder, and are more likely to save and contribute to the community. Marriage humanizes us.

We know this almost instinctively. Say you're walking down a dark street at night and a group of young men are approaching you. Would you be relieved to learn that they were all married? This is what's called a rhetorical question.

Married men and women are healthier, happier, live longer and are more successful than their single counterparts. Children who live with their married, biological parents are better students, better adjusted and more likely to avoid destructive behavior – like drugs, alcohol, crime, suicide and the initiation of sexual activity at an early age.

We all have a stake in promoting marriage and family formation. So why are both on the endangered species list? The culprits include no-fault divorce, cohabitation, a weakening of religion, a culture of selfishness and one that sanctions, even promotes, sex outside marriage.

Marriage is as old as humanity itself. Before there were nations, before there were governments, before there was civil society, there was the family, consisting of a man and a woman and their children. Genesis is largely the history of one family – Abraham, his wife and son and their descendants.

In the beautifully poetic words of the King James Bible: "Male and female created He them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created." "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Marriage is an essential part of God's plan for humanity.

Why one man and one woman? Because male and female complement each other. There's a wonderful scene in the movie "Jerry McGuire," where Tom Cruise says to his wife, "You complete me."

Children need both male and female role models, something conspicuously absent from same-sex arrangements. There is no substitute for a man and a woman – a father and a mother – in the home.

Instead of promoting natural marriage – the institution on which society's future depends – the only kind of marriage many politicians seem interested in is the only kind from which society derives no benefit.

Starting with the Dutch in 2001, 20 countries, almost all developed nations in the West, adopted so-called gay marriage. Significantly, the Netherlands also legalized drugs and prostitution about the same time.

To date, no Asian nation, none on the African continent save South Africa, and only a handful in Latin America have deconstructed marriage. Only Ireland did so by a popular vote, the rest by legislation or judicial decree. In the United States, this was done by unelected judges who distorted our Constitution to reach an outcome favored by elites.

Let's consider two of the most popular arguments of proponents:

1. We love each other – Interesting, but irrelevant. A 30-year-old man and a 14-year-old girl can love each other; blood relatives can love each other; a man can love two or more women. Based on the love-conquers-all criteria, shouldn't they be allowed to wed too? Once you begin changing the age-old definition of marriage, where do you stop? Why not open it up to any individuals or combinations of individuals who say they're in love? In Medellin, Colombia, Victor Prada, John Rodriguez and Manuel Bermudez were legally married recently. Each declares his love for the other two.

2. Limiting marriage to heterosexuals is discriminatory – Proponents of same-sex marriage argue: "If you believe in equality, you should support marriage between two men or two women." The answer: Life isn't fair. Everyone should be equal in their fundamental rights (freedom of speech, religion, association and so on). Otherwise, life is governed by inequality. Do I have the right to be the New England Patriots' quarterback, even though I lack the strength, skill and coordination necessary? Marriage is more than a contract between two individuals. (That's why it's regulated by the state.) It has social functions that transcend individual desires.

Let's consider some counter-arguments:

1. Homosexuals can't fulfill the most basic purpose of marriage – procreation and childrearing. There are heterosexual couples that don't want children and those that can't have children. But same-sex couples, by their very nature, are incapable of having children. The couples who are doing society's vital work – mothers and fathers joined by faith and tradition, raising the next generation in love – deserve the status reserved for them alone from time immemorial.

2. Children need a father and a mother – A woman who was raised from birth by two lesbians said that, even as an adult, "I have still felt an empty space in my life, the lack of a father, and no matter the love I have had from both of my ‘mothers' ... There is a balance that comes from a mother and a father that can create the most lasting and stable family. I would not keep the blessings a father can give from any child."

3. With gay marriage in the United States, adoption agencies are being forced to place children with homosexual couples. In Massachusetts, the first state to legalize same-sex marriage, Catholic Charities stopped offering adoption services for that reason.

4. There is no comparison between this and natural marriage. Most homosexual liaisons are of short duration. Even those that are called "committed relationships" are rarely monogamous. According to the National Center for Health Research, in 2001, even in the age of no-fault divorce, 66% of first marriages in the U.S. lasted longer than 10 years; 50% lasted longer than 20 years. Another study described the average homosexual relationship as "transactional" – lasting less than 6 months.

5. In a study of gay men by the Journal of Sex Research, the average number of lifetime partners was 755, with some reporting more than 1,000. How can the term "marriage" be applied to what amounts to a revolving bedroom door?

6. Legalizing homosexual marriage inevitably leads to public school indoctrination and religious persecution. In the United States, photographers, florists and bakers have been fined huge sums (and, in some cases, ordered to undergo what amounts to therapy) for refusing to participate in same-sex ceremonies. Ultimately, sexual radicals would force churches to perform these ceremonies or lose their tax-exempt status.

7. On Father's Day, the U.S. Department of Education had a fatherhood conference that included the heads of Family Research Council and Focus on the Family, two well-respected organizations doing vital work. "Outrageous" said LGBT groups. Because FRC and Focus oppose gay marriage, they are "hateful." Thus the movement works tirelessly to stigmatize and marginalize conservative Christians.

8. In the Canadian province of Alberta, a local school board ordered a Christian school to stop reading or studying "any scripture that could be offensive to any individual." Presumably, this includes those that condemn homosexuality, adultery, idolatry and witchcraft.

9. The sexual revolution is an insatiable beast. Nothing is ever enough. First there were anti-discrimination laws, then hate-crimes legislation, then marriage-deconstruction. Now, it's on to what's called "transgenderism" – which has absolutely no scientific basis. It demands that men who "feel" like women be treated like women – including using the bathrooms and showers/changing rooms of those who actually are women and girls – regardless of considerations of safety and modesty. If we don't hold the line on marriage, who knows what will come next.

10. Same-sex marriage must be seen not in isolation, but as part of a continuum. In the United States, we went from no-fault divorce, to abortion on demand and sex education which amounts to indoctrination, to public schools distributing condoms to minors without parental knowledge or consent. Along with Bible-believers, the left has targeted the family as the chief obstacle to achieving its utopian agenda. It understands that anything which weakens the family strengthens its cause.

11. Almost 100 years ago, Georg Lukacs, a Hungarian intellectual considered one of the fathers of Cultural Marxism, wrote that traditional culture must be destroyed for the workers' paradise to emerge. Lukacs observed: "I saw the revolutionary destruction of society as the one and only solution to the cultural contradictions of the epoch…Such a worldwide overturning of values cannot take place without the annihilation of the old values and the creation of new ones by the revolutionaries." By the "old values," he meant faith and family.

Without marriage, we will enter a brave new world of atomistic individualism – one where individuals live by and for themselves and social arrangements are transitory and utilitarian. Procreation will be increasingly rare.

We need to return to our roots – especially the Bible.

The United Nations' Universal Declaration of Human Rights (adopted in 1948, when most UN members were democracies) calls the family based on marriage, "the natural and fundamental group unit of society and(as such)entitled to protection by society and the state."

To say the family is "the... fundamental group unit of society," means it's the foundation. Demolish the foundation, and the entire structure collapses. Survivors will buried in the rubble.


 

 

 



Cosmopolitan's Rules for Propaganda


 

 

Here we are today at a time when all of America seems to be falling apart. With COVID, race riots, church burnings, and desecration of statues of the Virgin Mary, how can we care about the Sexual Revolution at a time like this? Why would anybody even bother to care about something that happened 50 years ago.

I think we need to realize, the battles we are fighting in our culture today, from the sexual revolution to race riots and church burnings are all interconnected. The question we are fighting about in America and the world today is “What does it mean to be a person?” Are we made in the image of God and are we made ford eternal joy? Or are we just sophisticated, sexual animals meant to acquire as much power as we possibly can before we die?

If we are just sophisticated animals, what’s wrong with sex trafficking? What’s wrong with pornography? What’s wrong with destroying the family? What’s wrong with the policeman killing George Floyd in the streets? If there is no God, and there is nothing in this world that’s sacred, and our brief time on this earth is all about how we can assert our own power, what’s the point? In a totally self-created world, you can do whatever you want, you can be whatever you want, you can say whatever you want and nobody can stop you.

If you look all around us at our culture; everything around us is in upheaval, and yet nowhere does anyone appear to be responsible for all of this. Where did it all come from? Well, I[‘m here to tell you today, at least one place where it all comes from. From the past 100 years or so al lot of this has been driven by a highly sophisticated science of propaganda.

The problem is that propaganda, the kind that can change your life and ruin your life, is purposefully designed to be invisible. So today, we are going to talk about propaganda: what it is, how it works, and how you can spot it. We can’t look at all the propaganda we’re subjected to every day, because there is so much we can’t even begin to talk about it all.

But as someone who wrote Sex Revolution propaganda for Cosmo for two decades (not the last two decades, but for two decades) I can tell you about some of the propaganda that was used to sell the Sex Revolution’s false values to American women. And a lot of the rules we followed (and there are rules to follow for propaganda) a lot of those rules we followed are still being used to sell many other false values to Americans today.

To start with, a little bit of my background. I grew up in a small town in Iowa called New Hampton during the 1950s. My father owned a shoe store, where my homemaker mother worked part time. Marriage was forever in those days. In my high school class of 150 or so students, I only knew one girl whose parents were divorced.Only one. Can you imagine?

And yet in my youthful innocence, I thought all those people in my small town had, “small town minds.”And I longed to escape to New York City to be part of what imagined to be the “real world.”I was very glamour struck. I wanted to be sophisticated. After I graduated from the University of Missouri School of Journalism, I went with my husband to New York City (I was married already). We were married in those days at 21. When I landed a job at Cosmopolitan Magazine in New York City. It was 1971. The Sexual Revolution was in full swing.

I was an ambitious young woman. Cosmo was the hottest women’s magazine in the nation, and I was there. One of the first things that I learned when I got a job on staff at Cosmo, that a lot of those stories about women hopping into bed with men, were completely made up. Having these happy go lucky lives, so the first thing that propagandists do, when they’re working to destroy our culture, is this: they tell stories. They create partially true narratives to distort the whole truth.

Helen Gurley Brown, who was Cosmo’s editor-in-chief (she’s the one that changed Cosmo from a general interest magazine into a sex rag, and she did that in the mid-60’s), she had written up a set of rules telling us how to make up stories for the magazine and even how to make up expos. So you’re talking here, again, about rules on how to manufacture propaganda. Here’s what one of the rules says, “Unless you are a recognized authority on a subject, profound statements must be attributed to somebody appropriate, even if the writer has to invent the authority.”

In other words, it is ok, even good, to invent an authority if you can’t find a real person to say what you want them to say. And then she gives two examples of what she means: she says, “This is bad: all psychiatrists are basically Freudians.” Well, of course, that’s only partially true, not all qualified psychiatrists are Freudians, but some of them are. “Better,” she says, “Better, ‘According to one practitioner who specializes in group therapy, “all psychiatrists are Freudians.’” So now we’ve invented this authority to tell us this lie.

So presumably, this young, innocent, young lady, will be more inclined to believe it. So, propagandists also create fake authorities. Since most young women in America were not part of the Sexual Revolution, the Sexual Revolution was manufactured out of whole cloth. We also had to make this libertine lifestyle appear more widespread than it actually was. And how were we going to do this?

Well, Helen tells us how. How do you make something that’s not happening look like it’s happening everywhere? Here’s what she says, “When making up stories about ordinary women” whom she calls civilians, I guess we’re in the army, the propagandists are in the army and everyone else out there is a civilian, “When making up stories about ordinary women, try to locate some of the buildings, restaurants, night clubs, parks, streets, as well as entire case histories,” – all these case histories are made up – “in cities other than New York, even if you deliberately have to plant them somewhere else. Most writers live in New York. 92% of our readers do not.”

So, by making up these women and planting them in Cleveland and Des Moines and Albuquerque. Of course, we made the Sexual Revolution’s false promises look a lot more widespread than they actually were. Ok. The unspoken message to the young reader is, “Everyone else is doing this. Why are you being such a stick in the mud. Get out there and have fun!”

Propagandists also make their values seem more widespread than they actually are. Another favorite propaganda technique is to make up false polls and release them through the media. Dr. Bernard Nathanson, who spilled the beans on the propaganda that sold abortion to American women and to American people, talked about how they just manufactured a bunch of false polls to make abortion more popular than it actually was. And they released them through the media, the media reprinted them, and pretty soon they were everywhere.

Now, back to Cosmo. Within these rules, Helen also gives examples of the types of fictitious anecdotes, or little parables, she wants to see in her magazine. So, for example, here’s a story invented about an imaginary girl named Erica, who doesn’t exist, that appeared in an article entitled, “One Man is not Enough.”

She had been living (now these appeared in the 1970’s. These sorts of stories are still appearing today in various places all over the place, anyway) “When one man is not enough. She had been living toward a definition of feminine nature that was doing her an injustice. In locking herself into a monogamous relationship with a married man, she was, more often than not, left with nothing at all. The elusive fellow in question did plan to marry here, as soon as he could work his wife around to giving her a divorce. But in the meantime, poor Erica is all lonely and upset.”

So, is Cosmo’s advice not to sleep with married men? Oh no! No, no no. Cosmo’s advice is not to sleep with one married man, but with several. So, in her best-selling book Sex and the Single Girl (Helen Gurley Brown), Helen wrote, ‘It seems to me that the solution is not to rule out married men, but to keep them as pets. While they’re using you to varnish their egos, you use them to add spice to your life. I say “them” advisedly. One married man is dangerous. A potpourri can be fun.” Creepy, huh?

One thing that was very important at Cosmo, and an essential aspect of propaganda, is the tone in which these fake stories are told. Cosmo was written in the tone of big sister written to little sister. Our tone was very chatty, conversational, and intimate, as if we were clueing you in on some inside knowledge you would only hear from your best friend. The unspoken message to our reader, whom we called “that Cosmo girl,” was “see how declasse the rest of the world is compared to sophisticated insiders like us?”You can see how seductive and appealing this tone can be to an insecure young girl, who is afraid she is not pretty enough or popular enough, or fashionable enough and wants to be seen as smart and sophisticated. Propaganda is the language of the Serpent.

By now, I think you can see that propaganda is not just a bunch of lies. Most people think that’s what it is. The problem there is not just a bunch of lies. Most people think that’s what it is, so they can spot it in a second. “I’m smart enough. I can tell, I can spot a lie when I see one. Nobody can fool me.” They think.But modern propaganda is far more subtle and sophisticated than a straight out lie. It is a highly sophisticated lie. Propaganda is half-truths, limited truths, and truths out of context. It is part of propaganda’s nature and power to be concealed and disguised.

So, for example, let me show you how subtle propaganda is. Edward Bernays, a nephew of Sigmund Freud, pioneered a scientific technique of shaping and manipulating public opinion. He was one of the first public relations men in America. In 1928 Bernays wrote a book called Propaganda in which he explained how to transform the buyer’s very world, the world around her, to sell products and ideals. You can sell ideas with propaganda as well. For example, this is Bernays, how do you sell pianos to the middle class? Because a piano’s a pretty high-ticket item. You sell pianos by selling the music room.

You have all these upscale music magazines like House Beautiful and Architectural Digest showing pictures of upper-class homes with beautiful music rooms sending the unspoken message that all the stylish and chic people have music rooms in their homes. And once you get the middle class to believe that they need a music room, the person who is reading these articles will say, “Ah! I’ve got to have a piano!”

Well, how do you sell beautiful clothes, make-up, expensive perfumes, hairstyling products, singles travel, contraceptives, abortions? You sell them by selling the Cosmo lifestyle. You make up a lot of these stories, about how this is the most wonderful, glamorous lifestyle a woman could ever possibly have, no problems, and the ladies just go for it. This is the way to be really happy. And once you sell that sexy lifestyle to them, she’ll just naturally conclude, “Ah, I just have to have all these other products.”

Propaganda is more than just a bunch of lies; it’s the marketing tool to sell stuff. And it contains some truth, but it is twisted. So let’s go back again to some of those rules that must never be broken when you’re writing for Cosmo. Like I said, these rules are applied in a lot of other places as well. Now we come to THE cardinal rule that must never be broken by our editors and writers who want to be successful at Cosmo.

Here’s the quote, “Avoid attacking advertisers: cosmetics, liquor, bra, and gurgles, etc. and where convenient, mention advertised brands rather than non-advertised brands.” In other words, if scientists say anything bad about the pill or abortion, you must not write about it. Telling the truth about abortion, the Sexual Revolution, and anything that is sold by Cosmo’s advertisers, is considered an attack.

We’re often told we live in a democracy, with freedom of speech and a free press, but in reality, this was censorship of the free press in action. And it happens almost constantly today, and far more than many journalists know or are willing to admit. Most of this propaganda, a lot of this propaganda is aimed right at journalists, and if they buy into it, they just pass it on to you.Helen claimed that what held you back from being successful in the workplace is, and this is her quote, “the built in mechanism in your body that allows you to have babies.” In other words, basically, being a woman. In her view, the way for a young woman to become liberated and get ahead, is to work hard, take the pill and if all else fails, get an abortion.

And in an unseen way, the Cosmo lifestyle, which almost all the women’s fashion magazines are selling today, is both pro-casual sex, and anti-motherhood. The two go hand-in-hand. Once a young woman is convinced that she has to please a man by having a sex with him out of wedlock, she almost has to take the pill, and since the pill can fail, she “needs” abortion as the backup. The one thing that is never discussed in all of this is that you don’t have to have sex to please the man. You can say no. If a young man is pressuring a young woman to have sex and won’t take “no” for an answer, that’s a good sign she doesn’t want that guy, because he wants to use her primarily for his own pleasure and he will never love her with his whole heart.

In the old days, in my days, in the late 1960’s and 1970’s, you waited or you tried to wait until that man said yes, and then you went ahead and got married and you stayed married. I was married for 40 years to the most beautiful man and I didn’t have to say yes to sex before we got married. One newsworthy reality we were never allowed to discuss in Cosmo was the pill, which, at that time, when we were able to discuss the pill, but we were not able to discuss the medical controversies around the pill.

Many young feminists in the 1960’s were opposed – the feminists! – were radically opposed to the pill because of its harmful side effects. In her book, The Doctor’s Case Against the Pill, published in 1969, one of the big feminists of that time, freelance medical journalist Barbara Seaman, launched the women’s health revolution when she revealed over 50 potential side effects of the pill, ranging from blood clots and infertility, to breast cancer and depression.

In 1970, Seaman’s revelations sparked a US Senate hearing: The Nielson Pill Hearing. Angry young women repeatedly disrupted the hearings, demanding to know why female weren’t testifying and why there was no pill for men. As a result of the Nielson Pill Hearings, pharmaceutical companies were forced to place a health warning to patients on oral contraceptives. The first informational insert on any prescription drug.

That’s why we have informational inserts on prescription drugs today, because of the Nielson Pill Hearings. But Seaman’s, who would earn her living as a magazine writer, as I did, as a magazine freelance writer, paid a steep career price for telling the truth. In the 1980’s she was essentially blacklisted from magazines by pharmaceutical companies who would not advertise in publications that carried her stories. Magazines that would no longer publish her articles because she was against the pill included, listen to this, Ladies Home Journal, Family Circle, Omni, and Hadasa, which is a Jewish magazine.

So, Cosmo isn’t the only magazine which is pushing propaganda for the pill and abortion and everything else. They’re all in cahoots. Propaganda is hidden in what you see and hear, but it is also hidden in what you don’t see. And one thing in Cosmo that you never ever saw, that was never ever mentioned, was God. You couldn’t mention God in Cosmo, but you could have lots of astrology columns. And where does Propaganda hit the hardest? Where does it strike the hardest? In our thoughts. Propaganda plants idea within our minds, that seek to influence our reason, memories, and imaginations, and ultimately our wills. In other words, Propaganda is purposefully designed, not just to change what you think, but also to change you how act.

The propaganda can suggest ideas indirectly through our senses, especially through what we see and hear. The ideas may come through conversations, reading, or various social and communications media. The ideas come to you through your senses, especially with what you see and hear. And of course, Cosmo as I say, is not the only magazine doing this. You’ve got Marie Claire, Teen Vogue, Glamour, Self they’re all selling this false sense of glamor so women will buy the stuff their advertisers are selling. And they’re doing this by pretending to be on your side, even as they try to con you into think that you’ll never be beautiful enough, or successful enough, or wonderful enough unless you buy all this stuff.

They’re also trying to sell you on the idea, they’re your best friend. If you ever feel insecure – and who doesn’t? – the people putting out these glossy pages will be sure to tell you that they, and they alone, know how to make you feel good about yourself. And how do they work to convince you that they’re in your court? They do it by telling stories about people a lot like you, who found happiness and the answers to all their problems in pleasure, singlehood, divorce, childlessness, and particularly casual sex.

Their propaganda messages have even wormed their ways into our schools in what we call “Sex Education Classes.” But there is often no difference today between what is being taught in those “Sex Education Classes” and what is being taught to you in the pages of Cosmo. Are those magazines a teaching tool? You betcha. They are. And so is television, so is radio, so is the internet, the messages are coming at us 24/7, 365 today. So, here we go, alright? That’s how propaganda works.

In the midst of all this propaganda created upheaval, what can we, or anyone, do? First and foremost, we must silence our hearts, pray, and listen. We cannot do this alone, because we are not alone. God is with us. First, learn to pray, one of my friends told me, then you will easily perform all your good works. And he’s right. Second, amid all the lies and dangers we see around us, from the Sexual Revolution, to COVID, to Race Riots, to church burnings, now this is going to be hard, but we need to maintain our peace of heart.

A few days ago, I came across a little book written by a French Priest named Father Jacques Felipe. He knows all about activism, and he had this to say, “The first thing of which we must be convinced, is that all the good we can do comes from God and from Him alone. Jesus said, ‘Apart from me you can do nothing.’” He didn’t say, ‘You can’t do much.’ He said, ‘You can do nothing.’

To understand why it is so essential to strive for interior peace, Father Felipe explained, “Consider the surface of a lake, above which the sun is shining. If the surface of the lake is peaceful and tranquil, the sun will be reflected in the lake. And the more peaceful the lake, the more the sun will be reflected. But if the lake is agitated, filled with waves, then the image of the sun can’t be reflected in it.”

Just like the image of God cannot be reflected in us if we are upset. “It is a bit like this with regard to our souls and relationship to God,” he said, “the more the soul is peaceful, the more God is reflected in it, and the more His grace acts through us. God is a God of peace. He does not speak and does not operate except in peace. Not in trouble, nor agitation.” So remember, action without prayer, and interior peace, is like a candle without a wick. However hard you work out it, the candle will not catch fire. So, stay calm, pray until God inspires you, then peacefully do what he has called you to do.

Finally, as those who have had our minds open to the great harm that propaganda is doing to our nation, we can combat all the propaganda around us by telling true stories. As a small-town girl from Iowa, I did reach what many of us would consider the peak of the glamorous, self-centered life. I wrote for Cosmo. I was on the Oprah show. I rode in limousines. I was given all-expense paid trips all over the world. And it was all an illusion. You can’t tell a bunch of lies without having them backfire on you. And I was telling lies, remember. What made me the most miserable, was having an abortion when I was 27.

What made me happier, was my beautiful 40-year marriage. What made me happiest was baking homemade bread and chocolate chip cookies, and planting flowers, and spending time with my husband and our two children. Today, what has healed the pains of my past, and brings me the deepest joy I have ever known, is my relationship with the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit. And my time in liturgical prayer.

A year ago, I even jumped into the void, took a leap of faith, and moved from California to Wyoming, to follow a good priest, I trust to tell me the truth. And guess what? He did not stop celebrating liturgies during COVID. He kept everything going. He was, during Holy Week, and the week after, Easter, called Bright Week, we were in church for approximately 45 hours, no masks, lots of singing, sheer joy. Any time you proclaim the truth, and Christ is the Truth in person, you contribute to the Good in society and combat the evil.

At age 72, going back to Cosmo again, at age 72, after earning millions of dollars, and living a rich, glamorous, famous life, Helen Gurley Brown, who often stayed at the office until midnight, working to sell the Sexual Revolution to American women, told Psychology Today, and remember she was 72, she told Psychology Today, “It was no fun to wake up scared every morning.” That’s when she told a true story, the truth of her life. And that’s a story that can change hers. Fear is what we get when we cut God out of our lives.

The Ruth Institute, of course, is working on behalf of victims of the Sexual Revolution. If you’re a victim of the Sexual Revolution, or you know others who are victims, as we all do, you need to realize, that your suffering can actually be a gift from God in disguise. Everything is a gift. You can use this suffering and fight lies about sex in our culture by simply telling the truth and living the truth. You’ve been there. Your experiences count. What Sexual Revolution lies did you buy into? What lessons did you learn from that? What good came out of all that pain? And how can you tell your story in a way that will prevent others from going through what you went through?

If you listen to God in prayer, and prayerfully act on what he tells you to do, there should be no doubt in anyone’s mind, there should be no doubt that your irreplaceable contribution will make a difference. In the inspiring words of Saint John Henry Newman, “God has a good for you to accomplish. And He will not cast you aside.” So expose the propagandists partial truth with the whole truth of your life. And trust that God will take care of the rest. Thank you, my friends.