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Pornography Addicts and their Families

Pornography is a victimless crime. No one ever gets addicted to pornography. No family members are ever harmed by their pornography use.

ARE YOU A VICTIM OF THE SEXUAL REVOLUTION?

Dear Friend,

We have identified twelve categories of people who have been harmed by the Sexual Revolution. This questionnaire seeks to help Pornography Addicts and their Families. Use this checklist to see if you are a Victim of the Sexual Revolution.

Our goal here is not merely to identify Victims. The goal is to help the Victims become Survivors, and the Survivors to become Activists for positive change.

Has Pornography impacted your life or the life of someone you love?

This section of the questionnaire is written for the pornography addict. If you are a family member, you may wish to ask yourself these questions about the addict in your life.

  • Did you seek out your first exposure to pornography?
  • Did another individual introduce you to pornography?
  • Did your first contact with pornography come from an internet pop-up or other involuntary exposure?
  • Did people you respected ever tell you that pornography was harmless?
  • Are you ashamed of your pornography use?
  • Does your involvement with pornography take away from other priorities in your life?
  • Does your involvement with pornography distract you from relationships with real people?
  • Has your pornography use changed the way you judge people’s attractiveness?
  • Do other people in your life have negative feelings about your use of pornography?
  • Do you lie or deceive other people about your pornography use?
  • Has anyone ever walked in on you while you were using pornography?
  • Has the amount and intensity of your pornography use increased over time?
  • Did anyone ever tell you that pornography is addictive?
  • Have you ever lost a job because of your pornography use?
  • Do you have trouble getting an erection with a real person, in the absence of pornography?
  • Are you fed up with yourself?

This section of the questionnaire is written for the family member of a pornography addict.

  • Has your loved one’s pornography addiction caused problems for you or other family members?
  • Has your addicted loved one tried to get other people you love involved in pornography?
  • Are your children embarrassed by your loved one’s pornography use?
  • Are your children afraid of the pornography addict?
  • Do you feel that your loved one is living in his or her own, unreal world?
  • Do you feel that your loved one is no longer available to be in relationship with you?
  • Are you sad about that? Are you angry about that?
  • Does your loved one claim that there is nothing wrong with the pornography addiction?
  • Does your loved one try to make you feel as if there is something wrong with you?
  • Have you ever had someone tell you that there is nothing wrong with pornography?
  • Are you concerned about your children becoming involved with pornography?
  • Do you feel that your situation as a Pornography Addict or Family Member of a Pornography Addict is socially invisible?

(This page helps complete Step 1We honestly Face and Embrace the Impact of the Sexual Revolution on our lives. If you are not familiar with the “7 Steps to Sexual Peace,” go here.)

Related Resources

If you are a Pornography Addict or a Family Member, you may benefit from these resources created or compiled by the Ruth Institute.

We are adding to our library of resources all the time. If you know of an organization that provides assistance to the Pornography Addict or their Families, please share that information with us. Click here to submit a link. Or submit an article, podcast or video with helpful information for Pornography Addicts and their Families.

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