My father was incredibly emotionally and physically abusive. Although there was never any sexual abusive per se, he certainly denigrated me as a male.
He was a hard man, and I was always a sensitive boy. I’m still a sensitive, empathetic man. I have never been a flaming gay guy, but as much as I hate
it, I have struggled with Same Sex Attraction my whole life.
I have been divorced twice now. I would very much liked to have had some EFFECTIVE counseling in late adolescence or early adulthood. However, I grew up
in a small town, and there was always such shame about “gay people” that I would never have dared discuss it with anyone.
Now that I’ve been divorced twice and have young children, I consider it my responsibility to get whole so that I can be a good example to my children.
Although I may never be very open about the details with my children when they are adults, I will encourage them to read, learn and do whatever it
takes to be emotionally healthy. I have been having Subconscious Reparative Therapy, which is helping. I think I am almost there. However, even if
a healthy relationship presented itself, I don’t think it would be fair to my children to have another relationship, at least until after they’re grown.
I accept that I will probably be alone for the rest of my life. I accept this with a stoic lack of self-pity and with dignity. Having said that, I want
better for my children. My whole purpose in life is to coach my children in a direction they need to go so they will grow up to be healthy, well-balanced
adults. If that means my children will need some counselings and therapy, so be it. I will do whatever it takes for them to be more successful than
I have been in my personal life. Sexual sin is wrong. Certain things that happened to me weren’t my fault, but it’s my responsibility to get better
for my sake and for my children’s sake.
Submitted by PJ.