An interview of Dr. Morse by Zoe Romanowsky at aleteia.org.
Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse believes we are experimenting with vulnerable children.
Prior to the Supreme Court’s decision on same-sex marriage, the court heard testimony from adult children who grew up in same-sex relationship households.
The Washington Post ran a piece about this just before the SCOTUS ruling.
On one side were the advocates—those who claim to be living proof of the words Justice Anthony M. Kennedy wrote when the federal Defense of Marriage
Act was struck down two years ago: that the law as it was “humiliat(ed) tens of thousands of children” being raised by gay parents.
As part of legal briefs in the Obergefell case, some of these adult children shared their experiences of feeling marginalized, less-than, and
unwelcome because their families weren’t recognized as “real” families.
Others who oppose gay marriage and were also raised by same-sex couples told their stories, too. One of them was Katy Faust who was raised by a gay mom
in Portland, Oregon. Although Katy’s father remained involved in her life, when she began to reflect on her childhood and became a mother herself,
she became convinced that no child should be deprived of a mother.
Robert Oscar Lopez also gave testimony. A professor at California State University at Northridge and an outspoken critic of gay marriage, he believes same-sex
parenting can even constitute child abuse. In July 2013, he wrote:
“Single-parenting and divorce have always been understood as a breakdown of the married mom and dad ideal, but the demand to view same-sex parenting as
“normal” imposes a silence on children about the wound caused by the loss of one parent or the other.”
Lopez has also said that he believes many adult children of same-sex parents like himself feel the way he does, but don’t speak up in order to protect
their parents, “whom they love despite their ambivalence.”
The Supreme Court’s decision to legalize same-sex marriage is now a reality, but the question remains: How does same-sex marriage change the rights that
children do—or should—have as it relates to their parents? Do children have a right to know and be raised by their biological parents?
Is marriage an institution designed solely for adults, or do children’s rights factor into it—and what exactly are those rights?
Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, president and founder of the Ruth Institute, an organization that promotes life-long
marriage, says that what the Supreme Court has done with its decision is say that there is no necessary connection between marriage and natural parenthood.
“Marriage has always helped assign parental rights. So when a baby is born, the mother is the person who gave birth to the baby—that’s the typical
rule—and then after that we answer “who’s the daddy?” by saying the mother’s husband; he’s presumed to be the father of the children the women
gives birth to during the lifetime of their union. With marriage now a genderless institution, we have broken that connection between marriage and
parenthood. Children don’t have natural parents anymore; they have legal parents.”
Morse says the idea that children have the right to know their biological identity, or to receive support, care and identity from their biological parents,
is now in the process of being written out of the law.
Some may point to adoption as a clear example of children being raised by non-biological parents where ties to biological parents are often completely
severed, In adoption, however, the loss the child has experienced is recognized and acknowledged and it is understood that his or her new parents are
stepping into the shoes that biological parents can’t fill for one reason or another.
“Adoption is a child-centered, child-oriented set of legal rules, rather than adult-centered. And that is the difference between adoption and third-party
reproduction,” says Morse.
With same-sex marriage, it’s now discriminatory to say that the ideal family arrangement for a child is with his or her biological parents.
Related to this is the issue that Professor Lopez brought up: a child’s right to both a mother and a father. With marriage “equality,” it is now discriminatory
to say that a child is better off, or has a right to, both a mother and a father.
In the interview above, Dr. Morse says married gay parents is a societal experiment and we shouldn’t be experimenting on children, especially those who
too often have already experienced the profound loss of their natural parents.
“What I see happening rhetorically, and probably even legally, is people saying that biology isn’t all that important; that we need to break our social
belief in bio-genetic parenting as the norm. I think this is a very dangerous place to go. I think it’s just wrong for adults to say children have
no right to their natural parents.”