Ruth Speaks Out

This blog is maintained by the Ruth Institute. It provides a place for our Circle of Experts to express themselves. This is where the scholars, experts, students and followers of the Ruth Institute engage in constructive dialogue about the issues surrounding the Sexual Revolution. We discuss public policy, social practices, legal doctrines and much more.


Whose kid is it, anyhow?

Do you ever refer to your children as if they were yours alone?  As in, "I have two children," or "my son in 8."   I have learned to stop doing that.  "My" kids belong to my husband as much as to me.  Although it is no particular virtue or insight, just facing reality, it still took me a while to remember to say "My husband and I have two children," or "Our son has just started college." I learned this from the Mother of God. Of all people, she would have had reason to refer to Jesus as "her" son, and kind of leave Joseph out of the picture. After all, he had no genetic relationship to Jesus. Joseph was "just" her cover story. But the Gospel suggests that she didn't treat him as an after thought. The Gospel reading for today, the Feast of the Holy Family, tells the story of the Finding of the Child Jesus in the Temple. Notice how the story continually refers to "the parents" of Jesus.  According to tradition, Luke's source of information for the "Infancy Narrative" in these early chapters is Mary herself. She could have told everybody this story referring only to herself.   "Well, when I took Jesus to Jerusalem when he was 12..."  But she didn't.  Or at least, Luke tells it as if she didn't. And when Mary does speak in this part of the Gospel, she refers to Joseph: "Son, why have you treated us so? Your father and I have been looking for you in sorrow."  We may surmise that her habit was to include Joseph. When I realized this a few years ago, I started making a point of always referring to the kids as "ours" instead of "mine."  If it's good enough for the Mother of God, it's good enough for me. Just facing reality.

Christmas message: Be Not Afraid!

            We live in dark times. More Christians have been martyred in the twentieth century than in all previous centuries combined. A British court has just declared that Judaism is racist, a ruling that may make Jewish education impossible in the UK, even in private schools. Many of our contemporaries seem hell-bent on destroying us, the world, and themselves in the bargain.              Revolutionaries of all parties tell us that the world we know is irredeemably evil and must be completely transformed. We hear voices telling us that mankind is a plague on the earth, that we must apologize for our existence on the earth, that our interests can be sacrificed for the good of the earth.  We hear that male and female are nothing but human inventions, and evil inventions at that. We must wipe out all traces of gender, neuter ourselves, and become generic humans, rather than men and women.  This is to say that we must make war on our own bodies, since there are no generic humans.             Against these voices, we have the voice of the living God, proclaiming His creation to be good. And when He had created man and woman in His image, He declared His work to be very good.  We Christians and Jews are under no illusions: we know perfectly well that the world is imperfect, mankind most of all. But we live in the confidence that God has created each and every one of us in his image and likeness, that Almighty God wishes to live among us and to make Himself known to us. He calls us to repentance and reform, without demanding that we destroy ourselves or spit in our own faces. In fact, he forbids us to do so. He demands that we love our neighbors as ourselves, which doesn’t amount to much if we despise ourselves.             God came among us at Christmas in Bethlehem.  Everyone knows the story as Luke tells it, and as we hear it at Midnight Mass: the angelic choirs, the star, the shepherds, Joseph leading the donkey to Bethlehem, Mary holding all these things in her heart. But during the day, the Church reads to us from the Gospel of John. In the Beginning, was the Word. The opening of John’s Gospel connects us with the very first words of Genesis, and thereby, with everything in between.  And the Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. This is why Christians throughout the centuries and across the world have always celebrated Christmas with such reckless abandon. No matter how grim things seem to be, how bad can the world be, if God came among us, and is among us still?             At this holy time of year, I want to express my very warmest wishes to our elder brothers and sisters of the Jewish faith. Your fidelity to the covenant graces us all.             To all my friends of all faiths, to all my coworkers in the truth, Be Not Afraid! The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

Eugene Volokh on the NM wedding photographer

Over at the Volokh Conspiracy, Gene blogs about the New Mexico wedding photographer who refused to photograph a same sex commitment ceremony. She had argued that she has a First Amendment right to refuse to produce a creative work.  Being compelled to film a ceremony that she disapproves of on moral grounds, she argued, amounted to a compulsion of speech.  The Court ruled against her. Gene notes how broad this ruling really is:
note the breadth of the court’s reasoning: It applies not just to photographers, but also to the musicians, composers, graphic designers, film editors, and other creators that the court mentioned earlier in the opinion. It would also apply to freelancers who write press releases, advertising copy, and so on. And I take it that it would also apply to bookstores, movie theaters, and other such distributors of others’ works; the authors and filmmakers aren’t “clients” of such distributors, but still the distributors’ “final message is not [their] own,” and they are “really a conduit” for others’ work.
I have been saying for some time that the movement to legalize same sex marriage and to normalize same sex behavior carries in it wake a vast increase in the power of the state.  Volokh generally supports gay rights, but is deeply troubled by this expansion of the state. I personally don't think it is possible to have one without the other, except perhaps, on the chalkboard in a law school class. But enough about me. See his other posts, here, here and here.

Man Marries a Video Game Character

A Japanese man married a video game character.  Those of you who think marriage is whatever we say it is: is this man validly married to an imaginary animated character? He sounds for all the world like same sex marriage advocates when he looks forward wistfully to the day when anyone can marry anyone they love. So, what is wrong with this picture? H/T Tony Listi, via Facebook

Sad Day for the District of Columbia

It is a sad day for the poor of the District of Columbia. For the sake of the 1.5% of households with same sex couples, the DC City Council has passed legislation that will effectively prohibit the Archdiocese of Washington from even applying for city social service contracts. Thankfully, the Archdiocese will continue its own mission to the poor. I wonder who the DC city council will find to replace them? I did a podcast on this a few weeks ago, while the City Council was still debating.

Multi-culturalism Run amok in Quebec

This is not diversity. This is an excuse for the state to regulate and indoctrinate, and generally stick itself into the minds of small children.

Donor Conceived Persons

This article by an intellectual property lawyer reviews many of the issues surrounding genetic screening and anonymous sperm donors. If you think these are simple issues, you haven't thought about them enough. Here is one of my favorite passages:
Anonymity itself comes with a cost. One need only spend a little time on the website created by a donor child searching for her father and half-siblings to understand the pain some of these children feel at be deprived of the knowledge of their biological father’s identity. As the daughter of an anonymous donor put it on another such website, “[m]y mother’s need to have a genetic link to her child was valued, while my need to know, love and understand the father with whom I have a genetic link was not.” More than 25,000 such children, their parents, and donors, have registered at the Donor Sibling Registry, trying to connect donor children with half-siblings and fathers—up from fewer than 10,000 two years ago.
Read it all here.

University Political Correctness: Inevitable or Just Irritating?

George Leef reviews a book on the always irritating problem of political correctness. Personally, I am very grateful to: 1. My husband for getting me out of academics and supporting me while I raised our kids and 2. the Ruth Institute supporters who allow me to do out-of-the-box thinking, to search for other intellectuals who do the same, and to bring our counter-cultural pro-marriage message to college students.  We literally could not do this on an ordinary university campus.  The campus pressures to conform both socially and intellectually, are simply enormous.

Are Blacks Abandoning Obama?

Inquiring Lefty minds want to know.  Speaking as a dyed-in-the-wool, unapologetic right wing-nut who hangs around with others of same description of all colors: I can tell you there are plenty of blacks with traditional religious and family values who are disgusted with Obama. Let me lis the things I've heard them say they don't like: cutting off abstinence education funds, appointing a lesbian as a commissioner to the Equal Employment Opportunities Commission, allowing his people to shove same sex marriage down the throats of the District of Columbia, and promoting abortion in the health care bill. Yes, many blacks don't like abortion. They feel targeted by the population controllers.

Anonymous Sperm Donors and Family Secrets

is the subject of this article in BioNews.  I completely disagree with this author, on every point except that we shouldn't abuse childless women. Other than that, well, look for yourself to see if you think this person is coherent.
Faith groups (and I am a member of one) have a poor, at times appalling, record of abusing childless women. Made to suffer for and keep secret the fertility problems of their menfolk, it is a human rights issue and it is right in our midst. Colluding with secrecy is not the answer. ...There is no returning to a mythical golden age in which donors donated and patients were inseminated and everyone was told to carry on as if nothing had happened. Obviously if donor insemination is viewed as adultery, then it is unlikely to be worth the emotional cost of undergoing the procedure. Alternatively, we owe it to childless women, under social pressure from their communities to keep gamete donation a secret, to engage in discussions about how to destigmatise infertility and DI.
I completely disagree with this. We should not "destigamatize DI." We should not allow donor insemination. Period. Not to married women. Not to unmarried women. Not anonymously. Not with full disclosure. Of course, we should not allow the abuse of infertile women. (I wonder what she is actually calling 'abuse' here.) But the truth is that no one has a "right" to have a child. Infertility is not a human rights issue. Deliberately separating children from their biological origins IS a human rights issue. I went through the infertility experience. Don't try to guilt-trip me about this. I know the pain. It is awful. But that doesn't change the other realities involved here. Bringing a third party into a marriage through gamete donation really is a harm to the marriage. Deliberatly bringing a child into the world in complete separation from one of his or her parents really is an injustice to the child. All the talk in this article is tap dancing around the main subject: we are pretending to have an individual, personal "right" to have a child, when no such right exists. Having a child is intrinsically a social act, since it involves the other parent, and the child him or herself.  DI, and indeed, the Artificial Reproductive Technology industry, is turning the social act of procreation into an individual act of re-production. Children should be begotten, not made.

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