Tip #57 from "101 Tips for a Happier Marriage"

Avoid making comparisons, even if you think they are accurate. Statements like, "I would never do a thing like that to you," will not win you any points. Your spouse won't believe you. Besides, you are not likely to be making sound judgements when your adrenalin is flowing.

Perhaps it would be best to take that adrenalin in a different direction by going for a jog. Take advantage of the opportunity to blow off some steam and get exercise at the same time. Exercise is proven to be helpful both physically and emotionally. If a jog isn't an option, close the door to your room and slam out some sit-ups and/or push-ups. You'll feel better for having done so in more ways than one. Then, once you've cooled off, return to the discussion with a more level head (and slightly firmer abs).

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Debate @ Baylor Law School

Baylor Law School hosts a debate between Dr J and Manuel Quinto-Pozos, former staff attorney for the American Civil Liberties Union, on the definition of marriage. The debate was hosted by the Federalist Society and the Baylor American Constitution Society. (Click the POD icon.)

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Oh, conscience… Hello? Are you in there?

In the car the other day, my seven-year-old asked if she had a conscience. I told her, “Yes,” and then slowly asked, “Why?”
“Because,” she replied. “I wasn’t sure, so I decided to test it..." Keep reading.

Dr. J's book, "Smart S*x," now available to download! 

Dr. J's second book, "Smart S*x," is now on-line as a chapter by chapter download for only $1.50 per chapter! Or, save a little more by ordering a digital copy of the entire book for just $9. Click here to see the entire listing of chapters.

Here's a summary of Chapter 1: The Gift of Marriage

This chapter discusses the importance of marriage and the parent-child relationship on a child’s development and ultimately society. The human connections a child has during the first 18 months of life can affect the development of the child’s conscience which in turn affects his ability to be social. Biological sciences confirm the importance of relationships through the development of the brain. Though modern society tries to persuade us that we should not let having children hinder us from spending our time the way we please, human nature and Christianity urge us to give our time and our love to our children. Social science documents the importance of a complete family, a married mother and father, on a child’s development. In short, children with a conscience are matrimony’s gift to society.

This chapter is suitable for college classes in Family Science, Sociology, family law, child development, public policy, social work, moral philosophy. Also, high school advanced theology classes, and adult marriage preparation classes could benefit.

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