The Dr J Show

Welcome to our newest project. The Dr. J Show is a weekly broadcast with an interview segment that features some of the foremost leaders and thinkers on issues relating to marriage, family and human sexuality. New episodes come out every Friday; catch them here or over at our YouTube channel.


This Teen Sex Abuse Victim Stood Up to Her Abuser: Faith Hakesley Fought for Justice.

Faith Hakesley is a wife, homeschooling mother, blogger, and author. She was born and raised in Massachusetts where she graduated from the University of Massachusetts Lowell with a B.S. in Criminal Justice. Following graduation, she worked in the Psychology field until the birth of her first child. Over the course of her life, Faith has overcome many traumas including rape by a Catholic priest, the death of a brother, and has lived through incurable cancer as well as a serious heart condition that nearly took her life.

In 2008, Faith was one of five victims of clerical abuse from the Archdiocese of Boston to meet privately with Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI during his trip to Washington, D.C. Their meeting awoke in her heart the yearning to use her story in order to help others. Since then, she has become passionate about sharing her personal story in order to offer hope, healing, and peace to those who are suffering. Faith strives to break the stigmas associated with trauma and encourages others to find hope through their faith.

Faith has appeared on CNN, Face the Nation, Catholic Connection with Teresa Tomeo, Kresta in the Afternoon with Al Kresta, EWTN News Nightly with Lauren Ashburn, Emmanuel Radio with Cindy Dorsey, WJR with Marie Osborne, and Catholic TV's This is the Day with Bishop Robert Reed. She was a guest speaker at the 2009 Women Affirming Life Breakfast in Norwood, MA and has been a contributing writer for the National Catholic Register.

Her first book, Glimmers of Grace: Moments of Peace and Healing Following Sexual Abuse, a devotional for victims of sexual abuse, will be published by Our Sunday Visitor in August of 2020. She maintains a blog called Faith Restored which can be found on her website faithhakesley.com.

Resources


"I am going to be a boy, it will keep me safe"

Dr. Erin Brewer developed a trans identity after being molested in first grade. She did everything she could to be a boy. In her mind, she *was* a boy. But instead of enabling this delusion, Erin's mother eventually sent her to a therapist, and she received proper care to manage her gender confused feelings. She eventually accepted her gender, but continued running away from God. She became a star on the most popular pornography site in the world, making the top 20 most popular amateur performers, with over 10.8 million views and more than 400 videos. She was saved from pornography when she accepted Jesus as her Savior. She deleted all of her videos and is now speaking out about the dangers of gender ideology and porn. She openly shares her deeply personal story to help others understand the damage that is being done to our children by the transgender movement. Erin earned her bachelors degree from Hampshire College, and her Doctorate in Instructional Technology and Learning Science from Utah State University.

Action Items

  • Dr. Brewer urges followers of the Ruth Institute to contact your congressmen and senators to express opposition to the Equality Act
  • Tell our legislators to pass laws requiring age verification for online pornography
  • Petition our state legislators to ban transgender drugs for children
  • Share memes on social media like those found on the Ruth Institute Facebook page
  • Oppose bans against “conversion” therapy, and share stories of reparative therapy helping people out of unwanted same-sex attraction (see the Ruth Institute's Cloud of Witnesses project)
  • Email your local school district and find out what kind of “sex positive” and “inclusive” programs your school districts support.
  • Lobby school districts to oppose any policies that allow a child to self-identify as the opposite sex
  • Write or call the Children’s Hospital of Los Angeles and tell them to stop supporting Dr. Olsen-Kennedy, who is encouraging children as young as eight years old to take cross-gender hormones and 13 year-old girls to have their breasts amputated:

    Children's Hospital Los Angeles
    4650 Sunset Blvd.
    Los Angeles, CA 90027
    Phone: (323) 660-2450

  • Write or call The National Institute of Health to express opposition to funding Dr. Olsen-Kennedy’s child abuse:

    National Institutes of Health
    9000 Rockville Pike
    Bethesda, Maryland 20892
    Phone: (301) 496-4000

Resources


Pope John Paul II's "Theology Of The Body" answers the Sexual Revolution, part 1

This week we bring you an expert on Pope John Paul II's "Theology of the Body" in two parts! Katrina J. Zeno, MTS, has served as the founding coordinator of the St. John Paul II Resource Center for Theology of the Body and Culture for the Diocese of Phoenix, AZ for 14 years, and has been speaking around the world on the Theology of the Body for over 23 years --not as simply another "subject" that is taught, but as the foundation of all that is taught and lived. Katrina is the author of three books including Discovering the Feminine Genius and The Body Reveals God, over 50 articles, and a blog entitled, “TOB Tuesdays.” She received her master in theological studies from the Pontifical John Paul II Institute in Washington, DC, and her BA in theology from Franciscan University of Steubenville. When not speaking, Katrina enjoys dancing salsa and Argentine tango, hiking, swimming, playing table tennis, and spending time with her married son Michael and her new granddaughter.


Resources

Katrina's websites are:

Two of Katrina's courses available to purchase from the Institute of Catholic Theology:

Watch Katrina's talk "3 to Tango" on her YouTube channel

"Like" Katrina's professional FB page! Just go to Facebook and look up "TOB Speaker"

Books & Articles


How We Can Save the Church From Within: Kevin Wells on the Dr J Show

Kevin Wells is a former sports reporter with the Tampa Tribune, where he covered Major League Baseball. His challenging book, The Priests We Need to Save the Church has been one of the country’s most-widely read Catholic books since its release in August. Kevin is also the author of Burst, A Story of God’s Grace When Life Falls Apart. He is a freelance writer, Catholic evangelist, and is President of the Monsignor Thomas Wells Society for Vocations, which financially and prayerfully commits itself to the promotion of strong priests, seminarians, and practicing the fullness of the Catholic Faith. The Society honors his late uncle, who was murdered in his rectory in 2000. Kevin’s work with youth earned him the James Cardinal Hickey National Figure Award from the Archdiocese of Washington. He lives in Millersville, Maryland with his wife and three children. He loves baseball, reading, and his backyard fire pit with many men gathered around.

The audio-only version of this podcast is available here: Listen


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#SaveJames

#SaveJames

(October 25, 2019) This Friday, we have some urgent action items for you with regards to a breaking case in Texas. James Younger, a 7-year-old boy, appears to be being forced to live as a girl by his non-biological mother. He is in danger of being chemically and possibly surgically transitioned in addition to being forced to wear dresses, a train of craziness that began when he watched "Frozen" and liked the character Elsa. We're making available hotlines to Governor Abbott, petitions, and generally raising awareness, which may have an effect on Judge Kim Cooks' handling of this case. More details in this special breaking news episode of The Dr J Show.

Governor Abbott's opinion hotline is (512) 463-1782 or gov.texas.gov/contact, to reach Texas governor Greg Abbott. The Judge handling this case is Democrat Kim Cooks of the 255th Family District Court. The hashtag for this issue is #SaveJames. Keep the heat on!

LifePetitions also has a SaveJames petition, currently with over 76,000 signatures: Support Dad and Texas Governor's bid to save 7-year-old boy from being turned into girl

The audio-only version of this podcast is available here: Listen


Trauma and the Best Ways to Help the Victims: Dr. Deborah Rodriguez interview

Welcome to the 5th Episode of the Dr. J Show, where we bring the world's experts to talk about the issues that face families and the faithful.

Dr. Rodriguez is a general pediatrician in Tacoma, WA, who sees patients from birth to college. She has a special focus on working with children, families, and adults who have experienced trauma in their lives. She is a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Child Abuse and Neglect. She is a member of the Catholic Medical Society and the Christian Medical and Dental Associations. She works in ministry to adult survivors of abuse including survivors of human trafficking. She uses a model of long-term healing and restoration. She has given presentations to community and medical groups on the science of trauma and toxic stress and on human trafficking awareness and prevention. She also facilitates peer support groups for survivors of abuse through the Maria Goretti Network in the Seattle area. She is married, mother to three children, and serves her church as lector, catechist and mentor. She contributed two chapters to the book Abuse of Trust by Allen Hebert.


Resources:

  • Hopeful Hearts Ministry, hopefulheartsministry.org (any survivor of any abuse)
  • Maria Goretti Network, mgoretti.org (peer support group with chapters in the US)
  • Adorned in Grace, adornedingracetacoma.com (ministry to prevention and restoration of human trafficking survivors and any survivor of trauma/abuse)
  • Mending the Soul, mendingthesoul.org (books, support groups, lots of educational material from a Christian perspective)
  • John Paul II Healing Center, jpiihealingcenter.org (resources, retreats, Catholic)

Reading Recommendations

Action Item: Buy the book Abuse of Trust. Read it! Give it to your pastor, school principal or anyone else involved in ministry. Give it a positive review on Amazon!

Follow the guidelines of trauma-informed ministry:

  • Realize that trauma/abuse exist and is very common
  • Recognize the signs of trauma
  • Respond in a trauma-informed way (using the VEEL approach)
  • Avoid re-traumatization
  • Consider setting up a trauma-informed church/school/family to create a safe place for survivors to begin to heal

A Survivor's Tale of Priestly Abuse


Check out the latest episode of The Dr. J Show!

This interview is with Allen Hebert, author of Abuse of Trust, which tells his story of being molested by his parish priest, as well as the stories of other victims of abuse. The book demonstrates how Allen and others have found hope and healing. Abuse of Trust includes wisdom from experts to help survivors of abuse.

If you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, you must share this video with them!

Abuse of Trust is available in the Ruth store.

Watch the third episode of The Dr. J Show and share it with your friends.

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