The Dr J Show

Welcome to our newest project. The Dr. J Show is a weekly broadcast with an interview segment that features some of the foremost leaders and thinkers on issues relating to marriage, family and human sexuality. New episodes come out every Friday; catch them here or over at our YouTube channel.


This Teen Sex Abuse Victim Stood Up to Her Abuser: Faith Hakesley Fought for Justice.

Faith Hakesley is a wife, homeschooling mother, blogger, and author. She was born and raised in Massachusetts where she graduated from the University of Massachusetts Lowell with a B.S. in Criminal Justice. Following graduation, she worked in the Psychology field until the birth of her first child. Over the course of her life, Faith has overcome many traumas including rape by a Catholic priest, the death of a brother, and has lived through incurable cancer as well as a serious heart condition that nearly took her life.

In 2008, Faith was one of five victims of clerical abuse from the Archdiocese of Boston to meet privately with Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI during his trip to Washington, D.C. Their meeting awoke in her heart the yearning to use her story in order to help others. Since then, she has become passionate about sharing her personal story in order to offer hope, healing, and peace to those who are suffering. Faith strives to break the stigmas associated with trauma and encourages others to find hope through their faith.

Faith has appeared on CNN, Face the Nation, Catholic Connection with Teresa Tomeo, Kresta in the Afternoon with Al Kresta, EWTN News Nightly with Lauren Ashburn, Emmanuel Radio with Cindy Dorsey, WJR with Marie Osborne, and Catholic TV's This is the Day with Bishop Robert Reed. She was a guest speaker at the 2009 Women Affirming Life Breakfast in Norwood, MA and has been a contributing writer for the National Catholic Register.

Her first book, Glimmers of Grace: Moments of Peace and Healing Following Sexual Abuse, a devotional for victims of sexual abuse, will be published by Our Sunday Visitor in August of 2020. She maintains a blog called Faith Restored which can be found on her website faithhakesley.com.

Resources


Has Lockdown Hurt You? Come Hear What it Did To The Truly Vulnerable

Reverend Father Bonifasio Senteza shares with Dr. J the conditions in Uganda under the Wuhan virus pandemic and the annual Ugandan Martyrs celebration.

In Uganda,

  • The child mortality rate (deaths among those five and under) in Uganda is currently 62 deaths per 1,000 children.
  • The average women in Uganda has about five children.
  • About 47% of the population is under the age of 15.
  • About 60% of women have their first birth before the age of 21.
  • Polygamy is relatively common: among married women in their 40’s, about 40% of them have a co-wife.
  • Only 2% of women never marry.
  • 60% of women are married by the age of 20.
  • Being separated is common: about 14% of married women over 30 are separated. Less than 2% are divorced.
  • Being widowed is also common: about 10% of women in their 40’s are widowed.
  • 80% of girl teens are literate; by contrast, only 50% of women over 40 are literate.
  • 82% of boy teens are literate, and 75% of men over 40 are literate.
  • Less than 5% of households have a flush toilet. Less than 1% of all households have a private (not shared with another family) flush toilet that is connected to a sewer system.
  • Only 30% of households have electricity.
  • Only 4% of households own a private car. 10% of households have a motorcycle, and 30% of households have a bicycle.
  • About 45% of the population is Protestant, about 40% are Catholic, and about 14% are Muslim.
  • About 5% of the population has HIV.

DONATE:
missio.org/project/18218/Covid-19-Emergency-Food-Supply-Uganda

Ugandan Hunger Pandemic: "Activists protest at coronavirus-related ‘hunger pandemic’ in Uganda," from the Irish Times

Ugandan Martyrs Day 2019 (YouTube)

Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse's Uganda Talk on the Ruth Speaks Out blog


How We Can Save the Church From Within: Kevin Wells on the Dr J Show

Kevin Wells is a former sports reporter with the Tampa Tribune, where he covered Major League Baseball. His challenging book, The Priests We Need to Save the Church has been one of the country’s most-widely read Catholic books since its release in August. Kevin is also the author of Burst, A Story of God’s Grace When Life Falls Apart. He is a freelance writer, Catholic evangelist, and is President of the Monsignor Thomas Wells Society for Vocations, which financially and prayerfully commits itself to the promotion of strong priests, seminarians, and practicing the fullness of the Catholic Faith. The Society honors his late uncle, who was murdered in his rectory in 2000. Kevin’s work with youth earned him the James Cardinal Hickey National Figure Award from the Archdiocese of Washington. He lives in Millersville, Maryland with his wife and three children. He loves baseball, reading, and his backyard fire pit with many men gathered around.

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#SaveJames

#SaveJames

(October 25, 2019) This Friday, we have some urgent action items for you with regards to a breaking case in Texas. James Younger, a 7-year-old boy, appears to be being forced to live as a girl by his non-biological mother. He is in danger of being chemically and possibly surgically transitioned in addition to being forced to wear dresses, a train of craziness that began when he watched "Frozen" and liked the character Elsa. We're making available hotlines to Governor Abbott, petitions, and generally raising awareness, which may have an effect on Judge Kim Cooks' handling of this case. More details in this special breaking news episode of The Dr J Show.

Governor Abbott's opinion hotline is (512) 463-1782 or gov.texas.gov/contact, to reach Texas governor Greg Abbott. The Judge handling this case is Democrat Kim Cooks of the 255th Family District Court. The hashtag for this issue is #SaveJames. Keep the heat on!

LifePetitions also has a SaveJames petition, currently with over 76,000 signatures: Support Dad and Texas Governor's bid to save 7-year-old boy from being turned into girl

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Trauma and the Best Ways to Help the Victims: Dr. Deborah Rodriguez interview

Welcome to the 5th Episode of the Dr. J Show, where we bring the world's experts to talk about the issues that face families and the faithful.

Dr. Rodriguez is a general pediatrician in Tacoma, WA, who sees patients from birth to college. She has a special focus on working with children, families, and adults who have experienced trauma in their lives. She is a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Child Abuse and Neglect. She is a member of the Catholic Medical Society and the Christian Medical and Dental Associations. She works in ministry to adult survivors of abuse including survivors of human trafficking. She uses a model of long-term healing and restoration. She has given presentations to community and medical groups on the science of trauma and toxic stress and on human trafficking awareness and prevention. She also facilitates peer support groups for survivors of abuse through the Maria Goretti Network in the Seattle area. She is married, mother to three children, and serves her church as lector, catechist and mentor. She contributed two chapters to the book Abuse of Trust by Allen Hebert.


Resources:

  • Hopeful Hearts Ministry, hopefulheartsministry.org (any survivor of any abuse)
  • Maria Goretti Network, mgoretti.org (peer support group with chapters in the US)
  • Adorned in Grace, adornedingracetacoma.com (ministry to prevention and restoration of human trafficking survivors and any survivor of trauma/abuse)
  • Mending the Soul, mendingthesoul.org (books, support groups, lots of educational material from a Christian perspective)
  • John Paul II Healing Center, jpiihealingcenter.org (resources, retreats, Catholic)

Reading Recommendations

Action Item: Buy the book Abuse of Trust. Read it! Give it to your pastor, school principal or anyone else involved in ministry. Give it a positive review on Amazon!

Follow the guidelines of trauma-informed ministry:

  • Realize that trauma/abuse exist and is very common
  • Recognize the signs of trauma
  • Respond in a trauma-informed way (using the VEEL approach)
  • Avoid re-traumatization
  • Consider setting up a trauma-informed church/school/family to create a safe place for survivors to begin to heal

A Survivor's Tale of Priestly Abuse


Check out the latest episode of The Dr. J Show!

This interview is with Allen Hebert, author of Abuse of Trust, which tells his story of being molested by his parish priest, as well as the stories of other victims of abuse. The book demonstrates how Allen and others have found hope and healing. Abuse of Trust includes wisdom from experts to help survivors of abuse.

If you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, you must share this video with them!

Abuse of Trust is available in the Ruth store.

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