The Dr J Show

Welcome to our newest project. The Dr. J Show is a weekly broadcast with an interview segment that features some of the foremost leaders and thinkers on issues relating to marriage, family and human sexuality. New episodes come out every Friday; catch them here or over at our YouTube channel.


Are Fathers Worth Celebrating? Research about Dads!

Dr. Timothy Rarick has been a Professor of Marriage, Family, & Child Development at BYU-Idaho for the past nine years. Dr. Rarick has worked with several organizations to promote and protect the family through public policy, research, and social media. In 2017, Tim completed a sabbatical working as a Research Fellow for the Marriage & Religion Research Initiative at Catholic University of America in Washington, DC where he has published a research synthesis paper on the unique impact fathers have on their daughters' sexual development, activity, and exploitation. Dr. Rarick was also appointed by the governor of Idaho to serve on the board of the State Department of Health & Welfare. In addition to speaking in Asia, Central America, Europe and all over the U.S. on fatherhood, sexual exploitation, technology, and many other family-related topics, he has presented numerous times at Princeton and the United Nations' Commission on the Status of Women. Dr. Rarick has been asked twice by The Holy See to speak at the United Nations on behalf of fathers and the vital role they play in gender equality and women empowerment. He also writes research briefs and testifies for fathers' rights and equal shared parenting in family courts. Tim and his wife, Jodi, have been married for 20 years and have four children.

Resources


Staying Sane During Quarantine!? How to be a Happier Parent!

Betsy Kerekes is the happily married mother of three girls and a boy. She shares amusing, light-hearted stories about her husband and children at parentingisfunny.wordpress.com. Her first book with Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, 101 Tips for a Happier Marriage, has three foreign translations. She also wrote 101 Tips for Marrying the Right Person with Dr. Morse. She has published multiple articles, has been on numerous radio shows, and was a week-long guest on EWTN's "Women of Grace." She has also done public speaking, including the annual "Parenting with Purpose" conference in Washington, D.C. Her latest book is Be A Happier Parent or Laugh Trying. Betsy serves the Ruth Institute as online editor of our newsletter, our Facebook page, and much more.

Resources and Readings


Schools are Teaching Your Children This, but They Don't Want You to Know... Sex-ed and More

Attorney Cathy Ruse has devoted her career to promoting the dignity of the human person --a career that spans the fields of communication, public policy, law, and language remediation.

Currently, Mrs. Ruse serves as Family Research Council’s Senior Fellow for Legal Studies. She is also Legal Supervisor for Ave Maria School of Law/Culture of Life Foundation Washington Externship Program, and she is a Certified Dyslexia Therapist.

Mrs. Ruse previously served the United States' House of Representatives as Chief Counsel of the Constitution Subcommittee, and the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops as pro-life spokesman. Prior to her policy and advocacy work, Mrs. Ruse practiced law in Washington D.C. She has testified as an expert in congressional hearings in both the House and the Senate, and she has filed "Friend of the Court" briefs with the U.S. Supreme Court.

Mrs. Ruse received her law degree from Georgetown University and her doctorate in Humane Letters from Franciscan University. She holds multiple professional certifications in the field of Academic Language/Dyslexia Therapy.

Mrs. Ruse and her husband Austin received the John Paul II Award for Advancing the Culture of Life and the Defender of Life Award from Students for Life of America. They are the proud parents of two wonderful daughters.

ACTION ITEMS

  • Be very present to your children: As parents, we must be the primary educators of our children in all things, and especially in matters of sexuality. It is from parents and churches that children will hear the good news about God’s design for human sexuality.
  • Teach your children: Sex is for intimate unity within marriage and this union creates children. Marriage is for the protection and benefit of children. Children will understand the true meaning and purpose of sex within marriage, and that marriage is for the protection and benefit of children. Parents must confidently and consistently share these important messages with their children, because their children are not likely to hear them in our culture or in our public schools.
  • You must interfere: Immoral sex ed works best when parents don’t interfere. You must interfere.
  • Help your child organize a club: Choose a focus that will have a positive impact on the school, like a Bible Study club, a Pure Fashion club, a Biology Club, or a Christian Athletes club.
  • Invite a group to review sex ed materials: Invited trusted parents to review your school’s sex ed lessons. Read the actual lessons, watch the videos, and visit the recommended web sites. Do not rely on the summaries provided by the school and do not settle for being handed a packet of home resources to “reinforce” the lesson. Demand to see the actual lessons your children will see.

    Parents may opt their children out of this material whenever and wherever it may crop up—in lessons, school events, assemblies, classes, or any activities that violate their families’ beliefs.

  • Every school year, file the “Universal Model Opt-Out letter” (template provided by Family Research Council): downloads.frc.org/EF/EF19J21.pdf

Resources


The LGBTQ says they don't exist: A special message from Dr. J

These witnesses' lives prove that being "gay" is NOT immutable. Each of them has found a way out, and testifies that there is a better way to live. The Ruth Institute has collected many of these "former LGBTQIA+" and we want YOU to share their truths! It's as simple as copying a link from the Ruth Institute's Cloud of Witnesses and pasting it on your Facebook, or Twitter, or Instagram timeline!

Commitment 2020 form: will you Support, Educate, or Advocate this year? Find out how.
Cloud of Witnesses: stories and testimonies from people who've left the "gay" lifestyle

We have the numbers and the truth that the Sexual Revolution has not made people happy. Hundreds of millions of people have been irreparably harmed by the Sexual Revolution. If you've been harmed by the Sexual Revolution, whether a child (or spouse) of divorce, a single mother, a post-abortive man or woman, a gender dysphoric, or a former LGBTQIA+, PEOPLE NEED TO HEAR YOUR STORY!

Support victims: Educate yourself and others: Advocate for positive change:
  • take them seriously
  • listen to their story
  • affirm their trauma
  • the truth has been lost in our culture
  • resources at the Ruth Institute
  • Christian teachings on sex & gender
  • speak out in social media
  • talk to clergy
  • get involved locally (libraries, councils)
  • sign petitions
  • write to representatives
  • attend protests
  • VOTE
  • pray! 




New Year's Resolutions!

We're about to roar into the 2020's. Are resolutions on your mind? What do you want to accomplish? How can we make the world a better, brighter place? Dr. Morse offers some action items and suggestions for New Year's resolutions!

Fr Paul Sullins, Ph.D., is senior research associate at the Ruth Institute, and his list of writings stretches past all of our arms. He's our guest this week to offer insights from his research on topics as varied as the recent clergy sex abuse scandal all the way to positive hope for the New Year.

Audio of this podcast is available here: Listen


Trauma and the Best Ways to Help the Victims: Dr. Deborah Rodriguez interview

Welcome to the 5th Episode of the Dr. J Show, where we bring the world's experts to talk about the issues that face families and the faithful.

Dr. Rodriguez is a general pediatrician in Tacoma, WA, who sees patients from birth to college. She has a special focus on working with children, families, and adults who have experienced trauma in their lives. She is a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Child Abuse and Neglect. She is a member of the Catholic Medical Society and the Christian Medical and Dental Associations. She works in ministry to adult survivors of abuse including survivors of human trafficking. She uses a model of long-term healing and restoration. She has given presentations to community and medical groups on the science of trauma and toxic stress and on human trafficking awareness and prevention. She also facilitates peer support groups for survivors of abuse through the Maria Goretti Network in the Seattle area. She is married, mother to three children, and serves her church as lector, catechist and mentor. She contributed two chapters to the book Abuse of Trust by Allen Hebert.


Resources:

  • Hopeful Hearts Ministry, hopefulheartsministry.org (any survivor of any abuse)
  • Maria Goretti Network, mgoretti.org (peer support group with chapters in the US)
  • Adorned in Grace, adornedingracetacoma.com (ministry to prevention and restoration of human trafficking survivors and any survivor of trauma/abuse)
  • Mending the Soul, mendingthesoul.org (books, support groups, lots of educational material from a Christian perspective)
  • John Paul II Healing Center, jpiihealingcenter.org (resources, retreats, Catholic)

Reading Recommendations

Action Item: Buy the book Abuse of Trust. Read it! Give it to your pastor, school principal or anyone else involved in ministry. Give it a positive review on Amazon!

Follow the guidelines of trauma-informed ministry:

  • Realize that trauma/abuse exist and is very common
  • Recognize the signs of trauma
  • Respond in a trauma-informed way (using the VEEL approach)
  • Avoid re-traumatization
  • Consider setting up a trauma-informed church/school/family to create a safe place for survivors to begin to heal

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